"I Want to Be More Than Just Friends with Him..."

Dear Dr. TRuth,

There is this guy I know who I really have liked alot for over a years
time, and I know he doesn't feel the same way for me.

He really just wants to be friends.

And I understand. I respect the way he feels.

So I asked him, if we could just become better friends.

You know, hang out more, talk more. And he said, Yes. He said he would
be a better friend, because before, he never had time.

So I kept trying to make plans with him. I just wanted to hang out
with him. And all of a sudden he says he thinks I will think of it as
more than friends.

I told him I wouldn't but I don't know what to do, because I adore
him. I need him for a friend.
But we are in an argument, and he won't listen to me.
How am I supposed to make this better?

I don't know what to tell him. Now he doesn't even want to be my friend.

I don't think I can tell him I need him, because he really doesn't act
like he wants me as a friend. And it hurts a lot.

Please help me with what I should tell him or how I should solve this.
Thanks a lot.

Sincerely,
A Friend

Dear "Friend"

I wish I had better news for you but you are just going to have to get
your pride back.

Leave this guy alone!

If he doesn't want to hang out with you, it is his loss!

Never chase someone who runs away from you.

All your letter tells me is that you need more self-esteem. You may
indeed adore him but, if he doesn't feel this way, spending more time
with him is only going to get painful.

Take him at his word. If he doesn't like you "that way" he is only
going to hurt you more.

If he is ignoring you, stay aloof.

Be friendly to everyone but him.

In the meantime, work on feeling more confident. Get in shape, do well
in school, take up activities which make you happy, and spend time
with people who want to be with you.

This situation is self-destructive and damaging to your self esteem.

We need to work on building it, not tearing it down.

Believe me, that is much more important than giving away your power
and sense of self to someone who doesn't really care!

Sincerely,
Dr. TRuth