"She Cheated"

Dear Dr. TRuth, I was friends with a girl last year and then it turned into a relationship. We only went out for a month but I really liked this girl... I thought she was the one - until one day she told me she had cheated on me with 3 guys in one weekend. Nothing major..just kissing but I still broke up with her. Ever since I have quit dating and I have a somewhat of a dislike for women and I really hate her.. I always think that all women are sluts and I know all aren't but every one I come in contact with turns out bad. Everyone tells me I'm to young to give up(19) but I don't care...every girl makes me sick and I don't wanna waste my sweetness and kindness on people who will just hurt me! And no Im not gay! Please write me back soon and tell me how I can get over her.

Dear Recovering Wow! Sounds like this girl really did a numnber on you! Your trust in women has really been shattered but please remember that this is only temporary. As we go through life, we have many bad experiences but each one of these exists so that we can learn more about ourselves and the type of people we want to be with. So one girl hurt you, so what! You might have thought she was the one, but I guess she wasn't! All that means is that the right one is going to appear one day. If you isolate yourself, you will not be available to meet her... and then what! In the meantime, while you are getting over this, take really good care of yourself, work on your pride and self-confidence, and keep your distance from enmeshments with women in general. Treat girls only as friends and companions but do not get emotionally involved. Believe it or not, one day, your pain will leave you and the perfect girl will appear. I guarantee it. And I want to know when it happens. Sincerely, Dr. TRuth