"He Won't Kiss Me"

Dear Doctor TRuth,

I have been seeing a guy, for a while now. He is not my boy friend but we spend a lot of time together.
Problem is he refuses to kiss me. Don't get me wrong we have done everything else but kiss.
I'm 22 and he is 24, and he says he doesn't kiss because he did it so much in high school that he got tired of it.
How do people get tired of kissing. I'm desperate, we have had many arguments over the issue and I don't want to just go ahead and kiss him cause he obviously doesn't want to and I don't want to feel like I'm disrespecting him.
I feel we are in the movie pretty women except he's the prostitute and I'm just the girl, since he won't kiss.
What can I do?????
I mean is he just afraid of getting emotionally attached if he kisses me? or could he be BI.
I mean a guy at his age should be more mature about things.
Well please help this is really bothering me.

Thanks,
Wishing

Dear "Wish to be kissed" You are right. Kissing is very intimate and I, like you, feel that he may be avoiding making real contact with you. In a sense, though you've done everything else, he is distancing himself in a way that is unacceptable to you. You have obviously communicated your need to him and he won't do it. Now it's up to you to decide if this is tolerable to you. I don't think he's "bi" but I do think that this indicates deeper issues around intimacy. See if you can get him to communicate further. Perhaps he has some trauma involving the erogenous feelings around the lip area. If other things are good however, this may be just his issue and not an indication of how he feels about you. If you enjoy his company and you communicate well in other areas, give it some time. He may come around. In the meantime, try not to take this personally. I doubt it is an indication of anything to do with you. Let me know how it goes. Above all, he should be able to understand that this means something to you and be able to discuss it. Sincerely, Dr. TRuth